29 lessons in 29 years
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29 things I’ve learned in 29 years:
It’s okay to make mistakes and still show your face. Authenticity message. “Grow from your mistakes, don’t let them become a weakness.” — Heart of the Sun Warrior, page 281
You will never lose someone that you’re meant to be with as a result of bettering yourself. Likewise, the right people will always show up in your life at the right time, and they will show you exactly what you think of yourself.
Everything in perfect timing. (Everything comes to you at the right time picture)
“Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.” - Dalai Lama XIV
Kindness is no virtue, but a common duty.
A good man is kinder to his enemy than bad men to their friends.
Men are only as great as they are kind.
Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind.
I am kind because I know what it feels like to be in their shoes, and when I was, I craved kindness and understanding.
“Fame is how the world sees you, what they imagine of your life. A fleeting thing, as capricious as smoke, and as easily reshaped through malice… True happiness springs from within, a contentment with oneself. And while it may be humbler and quieter, there is nothing more precious and lasting.” - Sue Lynn Tan in her book Heart of the Sun Warrior, page 372.
I wasn’t receptive to love from the people in my life until I found love from myself internally. I had to really look at myself, accept all the mistakes that I wish I could apologize for, accept that I am a human doing my best with what I’ve got. I love myself in a way that welcomes reflection, understanding, and acceptance.
Changing your environment and the names you call yourself helps in changing your identity - how you speak to yourself matters and what you think of yourself matters, as the people around you will reflect your thoughts in a way that will make you believe what you think even more. You have to consciously choose to think something different and only then will you begin to see that change in your life.
Avoidant attachment, Anxious attachment, Secure attachment
Decision and intention create your life, whether they’re conscious or not. — What I’m attracted to in my life depends solely on what my mind believes.
The only person you have the power to change is yourself.
Guidance will come when people ask for it but people need to learn their lessons for themselves.
Body positivity - trying to feel good about things you just don’t. Body neutrality - feeling neutral about your body and just being IN your body, nurturing it. Relates to life, such that I can be confident around people because I am not trying to change anything or force anything, I am just neutral, nurturing my connections with others.
I am attracted to good things and “bad things” — I wouldn’t be attracted to tough lessons had I not needed to learn something from them.